We are a world of people who are consumed with drama, from the world stage to our personal environment. Why is it so hard for us who desire peace to be peaceful? We haven’t accepted or learned behaviors that will help us create that which we desire to become. We keep surrounding ourselves with the “wrong” type of people or it could be said the “right” type of people to discover what we want or don’t want our lives to become. Whether you realize it or not, everyone is competing for energy to receive a psychological lift, which comes in the disguise of – Approval, Attention, Love, Recognition, Support – or other forms of energy from people in our surroundings.
Something that keeps us from living consciously, not taking situations personally, is falling into the trap of other peoples drama issue. Terms such as “drama Queen”, “drama King” or “they have drama issues” are not off the point. There are a variety of “energies” that vie for our energy – attention – for their survival and satisfaction. There are aggressive behaviors, questioning behaviors, secretive behaviors, poor me behaviors, and others in between.
There are four main “Control Dramas” according to James Redfield that mold us from childhood and follow us through to our adult relationships unless we change how we act and react to the situations we encounter in life. The saying, “You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results” is profoundly true. Having a strong desire to change, being willing to respond differently to all negative happenings in your life, will bring forth the positive manifestations you want to appear in your life. It’s not about you, but the other person.
Your emotions and feelings from your experiences drive how you respond to a particular event that resembles one you see occurring regarding someone else. You then give off the personal energy that you hold surrounding that personal experience. You have in your belief system something that says, I am what that behavior says I am; whether it is true or not. You end up projecting your incorrect view onto the other person in the situation.
People only know what they have experienced and base their entire conclusion from that point of view – particular from our family’s opinions and behaviors. You really cannot relate with someone else unless you have been through the exact same thing; and even then, it’s not the same. In spite of that, are you able to exercise compassion and give them empathy for their situation?
When someone who is angry, frustrated, or upset provokes you, it is because that person is off-balanced, lacking in a higher energy flow, and looking for a way to fill it. Person A encounters Person B that is fairly balanced and has what they need for energy, whoever that person may be, is a prime target for the one lacking to attack or to be a silent parasite to get the needed energy. They don’t know how to refill their cups any other way. So when Person B responds in the same angry, frustrated and upset manner as Person A, Person B is giving them the energy that they need.
DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN THEIR DRAMA!
Here are 3 things you can do before you respond negatively.
- Remember to take a moment to breathe, counting to 5 or 10, and then respond in a compassionate and kind manner.
- Understand that the experience is about THEM and NOT about YOU. Their drama is NOT your drama. More importantly, YOUR drama is NOT their drama; so don’t confuse the two.
- Become aware of how we “shift” out of character when we make someone else’s drama ours helps us take RESPONSIBILITY for our part in a negative energy exchange.
When you understand you don’t have to play a role in another person’s drama, you can freely give to that person what they need without depleting your energy. Choose to make the shift. When you are not giving your energy away on negative responses, you maintain clarity of mind, you maintain balance, you maintain the peaceful state that is necessary to live a life of Soul Success™.